Life at a funeral home – Still here
Hi all.. I’m still here. Haven’t had anything real interesting to write about lately and with summer here, just been ‘trying’ to enjoy it all I can. After the long fridgid winter we had!
But, I always take a look at my stats and look at what brings most to my blog. And of course it’s none other than death certificates! Ugh..
Some of the searches, one was, Can a funeral take place before a death certificate is issued? Yes, it can.
Can a funeral home refuse to give a family member a death certificate? Yes, we can. Whoever is the informant on the file, the person who is in charge of making the funeral arrangements, that is the person who we will only give the death certificates to, unless that person tells us it is ok to give one to whoever wants one. Typically the informant is also the person who is paying the funeral bill so they have paid for those death certificates. If you live in a state where death records are public record, than you may go and get one yourself. You do not need to be next of kin.
How long does it take to get a death certificate? Well, it should not take more than a couple days. It really depends on the doctor. Unless you live in a place that files electronically, then, the funeral home has to contact the doctor who will be signing, find out when that doctor is available to sign it, we have to travel to wherever that doctor is. Once we have the doctors signature and all the info required typed onto the dc, then we can file it at the appropriate clerks office and obtain the amount of certified copies the family has paid for.
One thing i get alot of that i just realized today is, alot of families dont know what to do with their loved ones cremated remains. Im not sure why that is.. You can always bury the cremated remains just as you would if the person were not cremated. You can purchase grave space at a cemetery and place the urn in the grave space and have a marker/headstone. They also have what is called Columbariums in cemeteries that you can place the urn in and on the outside they place the name, date of death and birth. Just because the person was cremated does not mean you have to keep the cremains on your mantel.
One thing that always happens is, when a family has visitation scheduled, typical times are 12pm-1pm for the family hour and 1pm-9pm for everyone else. I do get alot of families who will call and say “our visitation begins at Noon for family, so what time should we arrive?” …….uhmmmmm, NOON!! However, we almost always receive this call… “our visitation begins at (insert time), we want to come by before and drop off food, drinks, pictures, erc…., what time can we do that at?” ……..uhmmmmm WHEN YOUR VISITATION IS SCHEDULED!!
It doesn’t take an hour to put pictures up, it doesn’t take an hour to put food in lounge! Most of the time we do it for you anyway!
It always seems that whenever we have a short visitation or a memorial visitation, those are the families who bring in the most crap. What I mean by short visitation is, some people will only have a few hours during the day, usually 3 or 4 hours then maybe a short service at end of visitation, most of these shorter visitations are cremation or a memorial visitation is when cremation has already taken place and the cremated remains are typically present at visitation. But, these short viewings/visitations are usually always packed and the family brings in a ton of food. I am not reallt sure why you would want to do that since you only have a short time to have with your loved one… Just last weekend we had a memorial visitation from 1pm to 4pm with a memorial service at 4pm. Someone in the family called at 10:30am and wanted to come to ‘set up’ the food and ‘set up’ the chapel. What exactly are you setting up!?!?!?! We were not in the building yet, so I told her that no one is at the funeral home yet but someone should be there no later than 11:30am. I also asked what it was that they needed to ‘set up’? I was told that they had some water and a couple cases of soda and snacks, sime cookies and donuts as well as some items that need to be refrigerated and that they had a few pictures to set up in the chapel. I explained that it really wasn’t necessary for them to come early to ‘set up’ because that will only take a few minutes and we will do that for them when they arrive. I was told, “….well, we do not want to have to keep going back and forth to our car and carry all these things past everyone else who will be arriving for visitation because that will look tacky!!” Hmmmmm….you know whats tacky? Bringing in a bunch of shit to begin with!!
Well, end of story is that again, I told them they could either wait till 11:30am or bring it at visitation time.
I am just so fed up with people. I am not just talking about work. What is with the fireworks this year? Still, in my neighborhood, people are still setting them off in the evening! And…when did it become ok for your neighbors to be loud way into the night and it be ok!?! It’s NOT ok!! I have some neighbors who I guess feel it is ok for them to be outside with their kids and their friends until way past midnight with radio blarring, people yelling and laughing and just not taking into consideration that they have neighbors!! I’m also not clear on why people cant hear their own dogs barking in their very own yard but I can!! Constant barking..and noone in their household has the common sense to get up and go see what their dog has been barking at NON STOP for the past hour!! If I can hear it, why cant they!?! I know I know, dogs bark! I use to have a dog and believe me, he was the King of barking, he would bark if the wind blew! BUT, I would always always go see why he was barking so much and to bring him in!! (I miss my dog every single day…RIP). Anyway, it drives me nuts..it also makes me angry that if you have a dog and you cant bother to get up and go check on why its been barking non stop, then you shouldnt have a dog!!!! Or any pet!!!
Back to the whole being loud at night…I find it disrespectful and rude. Why would think its ok to be loud past a certain time at night…especially in most neighborhoods where the homes are so close together…