Life at a funeral home-Markers/Headstones, cemeteries & money oh my!
Just want to explain something about Markers/headstones. Yes, the funeral home sells them as well as the cemetery and there are a handful of independent monument shops.When you purchase one from the funeral home we don’t run out back and start cutting up the granite we have laying around! We order from a company that we have a relation with. So you come and decide you want a certain color with a certain design and how you want it to read. If you are installing this marker in a catholic cemetery than somewhere on that marker it must have a catholic symbol. Then the cemetery has their own charges for installation….why? Because the cemetery installs them!!!! So we make a proof/drawing of what you want the marker to look like and we send it over to our marker company. They then have a standard proof that they draw up with EXACTLY what the marker will look like. Once the funeral home gets this, we call the family back to OK that final proof. We send it back and the marker company begins making your marker. Once it is complete the marker company delivers it to the appropriate cemetery. NOW….once it us delivered to the cemetery, it is the responsibility of the cemetery to install it!! Does this seem like the proper procedure to everyone? Has anyone actually thought that the funeral home installs these markers? Also, depending on where you live, markers are only installed certain times thru the year, due to the ground freezing. In my are it is between Memorial Day and Labor Day (give or take a few weeks depending on the weather). Yes, you paid the funeral home for the marker but you also paid the cemetery installation charges, you just pay it all to us and we forward the cemetery their money. I just wanted to throw that out there for those who don’t use their thinking caps. Never just ASSUME! If you are not sure….ASK!!!!!! Do not start yelling and demanding shit because YOU didn’t listen to us when we FIRST explained it or just because you cannot possibly take the time to think for yourself!! If more people would just shut the fuck up and listen for one minute then I am positive their would be so many less misunderstandings!
FYI-Yes, even if you have had an unexpected death in the family, you still have to pay! Another example of not using your brain! I mean how many deaths are planned? If you have a lo end one who is in their 90’s, then really, do you start thinking about ‘when’? If a loved one finds out they have cancer and the outlook is not positive, do you start thinking about ‘when’? Sure ya do! However, for most of us we simply don’t think about when it gonna happen…so I’m not real clear on ‘what? Its how much? Well, you know this was very unexpected, so how does that work”? WHAT!?! It all works the same freak in way!! So tell me if you opened your fridge and realized you were all out of food that you would go to the store and say, “I really didn’t know I needed groceries, it was very unexpected, so how does this work now?” I bet the check out lady would say…..either pay for all your shit or get the fuck out of my line!! I’vee said it before and I’ll say it again….if you can’t afford it then find something you can!!!!! And if that means eliminating your luncheon…than so be it!!