Life at a funeral home – – Been SO busy!
I haven’t had time to write because we have been so freaking busy! This week not so bad, but last week was hell!
I am still enjoying working at the new place, seems as though I am fitting right in and getting to know the place better. Happy that I do not have to do ‘everything’ myself if a Director just doesn’t “feel” like showing up!
Since we had so many visitations and funerals last week, I couldn’t help notice that food was of course a BIG issue with every family! go figure… There is only one lounge. Pretty much just like anyother funeral home, there is just one lounge. We would hope that being ‘adults’ people could share the lounge and well…act like adults. Apparently not. So many families complained that the other family was ‘overtaking’ the lounge. I am not even sure it this was true or not since I was not really in the lounge to even see, but I do know that at any given point during any of the visitations we had there were alot of people in the funeral home….and of course where do all the people end up at…..the lounge! We had set up another table so that each family could have their own table for their food. Well, one family complained that one table wasn’t enough. Really?!? One family brought in coolers filled with soda pop, water, juice boxes ( for those little kids who I just love so much running around and yelling!) even though we have 2 refrigerators, that they also used! One family had chicken dinners delivered. One had pizza, subs, salads, etc… delivered. One family brought in any kind of cookie and cake and pastry you could think of. On top of the veggie trays, lunch meat and cheese trays that they ALL brought in. And of course they take their food when they leave but they don’t bother to tidy up before they leave. When you have kids at the funeral home all day (which you should NOT do in the first place!) they make a mess because they are left unattended. Whoever thought giving these kids markers and paper was a good idea, it wasn’t because they got marker all over the table! They also like to spill/drop stuff and leave it there and then other people walk on it, etc… I was also thinking that ALL the money that these families spent on these funerals, the caskets, flowers, use of the funeral home, and they are all in the lounge. No one in the chapel, except for a few people, and I mean literally a few people. It’s a waste of money and how are you paying your last respects to the deceased if you are spending the whole time in the lounge? If there wasn’t ALL that food in there then no one would want to go into the lounge in the first place. Maybe to get a cup of coffee or tea, but not to sit around. Then on the day of the funeral after the service before we close the casket they carry on and don’t want us to close the casket because they will never see their loved one again. Well, ya had a day or two to sit there with them, that was the reason for the funeral….no? And since you pretty much sat in the lounge, NOW you want to have more time? I just feel that if you are going to spend thousands of dollars on a funeral then why are you not in the room?!?
On another note…when a Death Certificate needs to be corrected AFTER the funeral home files it, if it has already been sent to the State, then it will be A LONG time before we get it back! So, MAKE sure that you have ALL the CORRECT information for the funeral home! And if for some reason you gave us the wrong info and it was sent to the State to be corrected it is NOT our fault it is taking so long! Out of our hands! Out of our control! NOTHING we can do! If your mother/father was married to your mother/father but then one of them passed away, BUT they remarried later on but then divorced….they are NOT considered widowed! They are DIVORCED! Just because it was not YOUR mother/father who they divorced still doesn not mean that they weren’t divorced! It will screw up social security benefits and any other alimony, insurance, etc…OK?!?
Well, I will try to write more sooner next time.